JB Glossinger [00:00:05]:
Good planning, and welcome to planning coach today. I am so glad you're with us. Hey. It's JB. Super pumped you're here. It's May 20, 2024. Ready to go episode 5,337. I hope you're doing great.
JB Glossinger [00:00:27]:
I'm doing great here. We are rocking and rolling almost a year since we did episode 5000. And you know what thank you for being here because if it wasn't for you We wouldn't be able to do this and continue to put this great energy out there every day to make sure you're staying on track. And remember, what does that mean? Well, staying on track, one of them is our metaphysical morning ritual where you take time for self care. You'll hear me say that all the time. Listen to coach guest. Get here. Get this information.
JB Glossinger [00:00:52]:
I wish this was around years ago, but just getting that consistent information over time is going to work for you. Plan your days with the 7 p's. These are critical. Again, you'll hear me sit talk about these all the time, but we wanna have the proper perspective when we start our day, meaning we're awake. We're alive. We can make changes. We can do what we wanna do. We can enjoy the day.
JB Glossinger [00:01:11]:
We wanna set daily priorities, have a focus on what we need to get done to reach our goals, focus on improved performance. Let's get better at what we're doing. Have patience with everything. It takes time. Make sure you're you're patient. Keep great posture. You know, keep that great posture. Stay present in the moment and persist.
JB Glossinger [00:01:30]:
We do those things, and we are gonna be moving forward, and that's what we want to do. After you get through your 7 piece, organize yourself with the planner. We've got the planner, or you can organize, in some you know, and with your pen and paper or iPad, reMarkable 2. I got the new iPad in, which is just an amazing design, so I'm gonna be spending a lot more time on that. If you follow my YouTube channel, we'll be talking about that more, and I'll be bringing a lot of content here on that. If you wanna take your picture of the planning it in. We've got the companion here for you. And, of course, stop by the community for accountability questions and support.
JB Glossinger [00:02:05]:
So excited that you're here. We've got a a ton of things going on as, as usual, and I will tell you if you're new, just slow down, take it step by step, do your metaphysical morning ritual, and get involved in the other things that you want to do, okay, when you wanna do such things. We have a meetup tomorrow. I'm excited about that. That is tomorrow at 12 PM Eastern Standard Life, lunch and learn. You can find up about that in your meetup area. Of course, that's where the meetups are. And, also, just a quick note, we're doing some cohorts, and I'm I mentioned this last weekend.
JB Glossinger [00:02:39]:
I don't know if you got a chance to list the coach cast, but I'm putting some small groups together, and we're gonna work on some metaphysical ideas and concepts. If you're interested in that, just keep an eye on your email. We'll be sending out information on that, for morning coach members. And also for non planning coach members, we will be selling that, but we're gonna bring it to you as a member. It's just another value add. I will tell you, though, as we do things like tomorrow's book study and the things that we continue to do, I wanna caution you, to try to take on too much within our system. Again, if you're like me, you like to do everything. Right? Don't try to do everything.
JB Glossinger [00:03:13]:
We're gonna have plenty of opportunities for you to work with us as we continue to move forward in the things we do. Stick with the basics, and that is, you know, take time for self care, listen to coach cast, and do your 7 piece. If you wanna do more stuff, just, hey, feel life, jump in your belt system. We got a lot of new people jumping in their belt, going through white belt, yellow belt. I love that. All the way up to black. And you and there's a lot of opportunities with this, but just stick with it. Stick with the plan.
JB Glossinger [00:03:39]:
Alright? And just keep going. And speaking of the plan, when we look at our planner for our December planning, life you were with me in December and we're really rocking the plan, you should be checking it right now. If you're new, you should be spending some time in your plan. And if you're really new and you're like, well, what what should I do? I would spend time and do your white belt and get to yellow belt. Lot of learning from white belt to green belt, and you could do that. That is in your library. You can find that in your library. Okay? So we got a big week planning.
JB Glossinger [00:04:07]:
What are we doing this week? Well, we're gonna talk about dealing with difficult, toxic people, and believe me, there's a lot of them out there. K? So we're gonna talk about how we can shift our focus to more positivity so that we can start to focus on things that are gonna take us to our joy and our energy and our success. So we're gonna talk about that today. We're gonna get into that deep today, and I'm excited about that one. Tomorrow, we've got our book study, machine of life. It's looking right now that we're gonna do an interview. Haven't done an interview in a long time, but we're gonna have sir Life Lee Kinnearick, one of my mentors, on to talk about his book and ideas and thoughts and things with that. So that's gonna be a special treat tomorrow.
JB Glossinger [00:04:45]:
And, again, tomorrow, we have a 12 PM Eastern Standard Time lunch and learn. Love to have you stop by there if you get a chance in the live room meetup area. Wednesday, we've got how to let someone go or remove them from your life. That's always a challenge sometimes when you're dealing with a negative person. And then Thursday, we've got s j b, and I've got how to handle the public life rumors and when people are talking about you, you know, kinda behind your back. And how do you handle that? So we got a almost life a whole week class this week on dealing with negative people. Friday, we got a good one. This is me.
JB Glossinger [00:05:19]:
Okay. I'm just gonna raise my hand. We're gonna talk about living with a spender even when it's you. We're gonna get into finance a little bit. Maybe you're a spender like me. I spend a lot. It is what it is. I need to make a lot because I spend a lot.
JB Glossinger [00:05:31]:
Saturday, we've got doctor Paul. He's in China, but we should have him back, by then. Everything goes well. Doctor Paul will be back. We continue our aging series. And Sunday, we've got looking deep into the daily spiritual. Juergen, who I always mentioned awesome, is in there posting every single day in our community, a daily spiritual lesson. And he's not the most spiritual person, and that's why he's doing it.
JB Glossinger [00:05:51]:
He wants to touch that more, and I think that's great that he's doing that. We're gonna talk about the Course of Miracles. We're gonna talk about some of the tarot stuff that I do, and those type of things. Remember, weekend review is done typically on Sundays. You can do it today. It's in your planner. You can kinda go through where you at, how yours are planning doing. And for those of you that are really advanced in coaching, SOPs, this is your time to do that whether it's, you know, you're getting your desk organized or you did that Sunday, that's great.
JB Glossinger [00:06:17]:
I will remind you on Sunday, if you haven't done it yet, it's okay. Let's get organized this morning and get going. Again, if you're brand new, remember, we have people with us 19 years. Don't feel that you have to do all of this, and you're going to SOPs and weekend reviews and book studies and and cohorts you're putting together and, you know, quizzes and 7 p's and, you know, ILD. Sacred 6. We've got a lot here. Just slow it down. You'll learn all about that as you you you process, the information by just coming and listening to coach cast and getting involved.
JB Glossinger [00:06:49]:
The more you get involved and the more you start doing stuff, the more will come, but this is a complete life system for you, and it will work for you if you're, what, patient enough to allow this to come. It's like getting a PhD in life. You don't go to school and just get a PhD or a black belt. You just don't go into the gym and get a black belt. That's not how we do things. You know, we've gotta learn over life, but then as you efficiently put this system in place year over year over year, man, do you get some benefit. You're gonna get a lot of results as you get structured and organized. And you and you can't help not to if you understand the principles and the ideas that we continue to talk about day in and daily, on a day in and daily basis here.
JB Glossinger [00:07:28]:
And, also, you're gonna get the energy. Energy every single day. 365 days of the year, to get you going and keep you going. You don't have to agree with everything we do. Every a lot of the things that I when I get on my tangents, totally cool. But what we do need to do is get up and make the world a better place by you being the best you that you can be, and that's what we're doing together. So speaking about when you're dealing with a difficult person and you're dealing with somebody you don't like, how do you handle that? Okay. How do we handle that? Well, let's get into some ideas today of dealing with difficult people.
JB Glossinger [00:07:59]:
Number 1, be careful, and I always say hold back from casting judgment. You know, I went through my father's it's been almost 2 months now. It's pretty crazy. My father passed away, and, you know, we had a really rough relationship. And it got rougher because of the way he was when he was younger with my mother. I'm a, you know, my mom had it really hard when I was young. My dad didn't really pay child support, and she was a nurse's aide. And, you know, she used to have to steal food for us to eat.
JB Glossinger [00:08:28]:
It was it was a really tough upbringing me from, you know, like, day 0 until day 8 or 9. I think it when my mom and my stepfather things started getting a little better, but when I was a child, it was rough. We went from school to school, apartment to apartment. I don't remember a lot of that, but I just know how hard it was. And so as I got older in life, you know, I kinda got a little upset with my father because I was like, dude, you know, come on. Well, you know, why didn't you help my mother and me out a little bit more? Not that he was a bad person. He just he did he didn't do everything that he possibly could, and he even recognized that later in life. But I kinda cast some judgment on that, and the truth is it's hard to cast judgment when you realize that he was only 18 years old, 19 years old, and his upbringing was extreme poverty.
JB Glossinger [00:09:13]:
He didn't know any better. He didn't know anything. I mean, he really didn't. There was no training. There was no morning coach. I mean, it was a different era, different time. And not that I'm giving an excuse, but I'm just saying be careful when somebody's really negative or somebody's being really difficult. You don't know their situation.
JB Glossinger [00:09:30]:
I remember hearing a story once of a guy that was on a subway, and he's he was, sitting there, and next to him was this, another guy, and he kinda had his head down, but he had a a kid there, 2 kids. And the kids were running up and down the subway and jumping on him, and he was just getting frustrated. He's trying to read his book, you know, and, guys, just looking at the guy, life, you know and we've all been there. Right? Get control of your kids. And he's looking at him like, please take control of your kids. This they're go and he didn't say anything, but finally, he said something. He's like, dude, you gotta take control of your kids. I I'm here to relax, and they're running around like crazy.
JB Glossinger [00:10:06]:
And he looked at them, and the guy kinda was looking down real quiet, and he said, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. We're we're coming back from the hospital. My wife just passed away, and we just don't know how to deal with it. And everything just changed from him in that moment because then he recognized the fact that, wow, this guy is going through some heavy stuff. So when you're dealing with difficult people, you know, stop the circle of violence. We don't wanna enable. Okay? Very important.
JB Glossinger [00:10:30]:
Don't treat my kindness or don't treat my kindness as weakness. Okay? I won't put up with BS. I won't put up with BS. That's just the way I am. But we've gotta be careful of casting judgment and understand maybe somebody's dealing with something that's a little bit more deeper and and have a little empathy going into that situation. Okay? Couple other things. After we find somebody and maybe we do castle judgment because we know they have issues, we need to set firm boundaries. Fences make great neighbors.
JB Glossinger [00:10:58]:
We'll talk about boundaries a lot here when we talk about, relationships. So make sure your boundaries are there, and and be vocal with your boundaries. That's not acceptable. K? You can really talk about behavior. Life. That's not acceptable behavior. We need to make sure you have really strong boundaries. The more you could communicate that, the better off you're going to be.
JB Glossinger [00:11:17]:
We wanna respond, not react. Most people react. 1 of the big issues that we have here at planning coaching one of the things we help with is getting you to be more progressive or proactive in the things that you do. So when you do have those hair on fire moments and somebody drives you crazy, or I'm trying to go golf and Morpheus the cat gets out and I gotta leave in a couple minutes, I can't find the damn cat. Right? That's you don't wanna talk to me then because I'm cussing under my breath. Where did the cat go? How did the cat get out? Right? We've all been there. We don't wanna be in those situations where we're Coaching. We wanna be able to have emotional intelligence and awareness enough to be able to respond, especially negative people or difficult people.
JB Glossinger [00:11:57]:
That's how you win. K? And I don't mind winning. Remember, don't treat my kindness as weakness. I'm gonna win too. So step back and realize that you need to respond, not react. And then we have one of our agreements here. Don't take things personally. Realize again that it's probably somebody acting out.
JB Glossinger [00:12:14]:
There's some issues, something there. It's not about you. It's about them. Right? So be careful with that. And then try to disarm the negativity. We go back to finding some common ground with people. You know, a lot of times you can find common ground. You realize that maybe they have some underlying issues, and they're willing to kinda give them up, and they're willing to communicate more.
JB Glossinger [00:12:35]:
Luckily, over the years, people, I say, JB, you're so easy to talk to. You're such a great communicator. No. I'm not a great communicator. I'm just a listener, and I work on my active listening skills. I just let other people talk about themselves. I came to keep myself a little reserved. We're gonna talk about that Thursday on how to handle the public and dealing with rumors.
JB Glossinger [00:12:54]:
It's also one of the reasons I don't drink. One of the reason I stay away from drinking is I tend to get chatty. I tend to talk about things, and, you know, people don't need to know about morning coach and buying an airplane and all people will judge that. Not that I care what anybody thinks. It's really nobody anybody's business. Right? My personal relationships, things that I have, that's nobody's business. So I gotta be careful of what I put out there because I like to be authentic and real, but I've gotta do it to the right people life you. I can give you everything.
JB Glossinger [00:13:22]:
I don't mind disclosing everything, but there are people out there that don't need things that need to be disclosed. Right? So we've gotta be careful with the way we're talking and understand when we go into these situations, find some middle ground, and let them talk about themselves, and you stay out of it. K. If you get somebody that's really difficult and they're complaining all the time, let them complain. Let them complain, and then try to disarm the negativity. Accentuate the positive. Focus on the good things, and see that person good. And all of a sudden, a lot of times, things will start to change.
JB Glossinger [00:13:50]:
Okay? And that's that goes along with just accepting the person who they are. You know, over time, I had to realize that my father was not the most intelligent person in the world, but he was okay. You know? And as I got older, I realized that maybe he had a lot of mistakes, maybe he had a lot of errors, but I knew who he was. And again, he's not a reader. He's not somebody that's gonna keep going. He didn't, you know, finish college, and not that that's an indicator of anything, but he just never had that energy to do those things. So I'm not gonna judge. And same thing when you run into somebody that's difficult, You don't need to judge.
JB Glossinger [00:14:20]:
Just accept them for who they are. I know it's hard for me because I see everybody is a good finder, and I I personally see everybody at the best they possibly can be. And it hurts me sometimes because I hold people to a higher standard, and I see them at a higher standard, and then I get let down a lot. And I have PTSD from that. And so I'm really cautious now who I've who I let in because a lot of times I see them at their best, and sometimes you get them at their worst. Okay? So you wanna find bright spots of positivity. We always talk about that, you know, and I I talk about me. I'm really putting more stuff out on social to be that positivity in a in a desert of negativity.
JB Glossinger [00:14:54]:
Life we can do that, we can be that positive force. And that's my next point. Be that positive force in the world because the world needs it. And the more we put that energy out there, the more positive we can be, the more we can reflect that. Remember, we need darkness. Right? There's darkness in the world. It's just if if we didn't have darkness, we wouldn't be able to sleep. We would be you know, it'd be the sun all the time.
JB Glossinger [00:15:15]:
So darkness is there, and we all have that inside of us, that shadow, that darkness, and recognize that it comes out with some people. But a lot of times, all you need is a little spark of brightness or a spark of a candle can really change the the darkness. Right? So in the darkness, let's be the light. As as Saint Francis says, you know, lord, let me make your instrument of peace. Where there's hatred, let me sow love. Where there's injury, pardon. Where there's doubt, faith. Where there's despair, hope.
JB Glossinger [00:15:40]:
Where there's darkness, light. And where there's sadness, joy. Oh, design master, grant that I may not so much seek to be counseled as to counsel, to be understood, as to understand, to be loved as to life, for it is in giving that we receive. It is in pardoning that we are pardoned, and as in dying that we are born to eternal life. And I love that. And if you're in my metaphysical group that we're working with, it's about shedding that old skin and allowing our new life to start. It's exciting times here at planning Coach. Okay? Keep an eye on your email if you wanna do that.
JB Glossinger [00:16:10]:
It's pretty cool stuff. Alright. So let's get out there and be that positive force in the world. Let's be that bright spot and understand that the 4 agreements don't take it personally and continue to put your good energy out there. Okay? And that's how we're gonna deal with negative people. I love you. Go have a great one. And I will be back with more tomorrow.
JB Glossinger [00:16:28]:
We've got an interview coming. If everything works out, could have an interview tomorrow with sir and his machine of life. We're gonna have some fun with that. Okay? So let's get out there and have a good one today, and I got a great one for you tomorrow right here on morningcoach.com.
