JB Glossinger [00:00:06]:
Good morning. And welcome to Planning Coaching Today. I am so glad you're with us. Hey. It's JB. It's May 27th 2024, and we are ready to get into episode 5344. I hope you're having a great one. That's the longest I've held a good morning in a long time.
JB Glossinger [00:00:36]:
You know, back when I started years ago, Matt Kramer, who's vocal coach singer of Saigon Kick was my vocal coach. He said, we should record a good morning and an intro and make it, you know, this kind of good morning thing and do it the same every time. And then we talked a little more. We're like, no, let's change it up every day. I mean, if it I mean, it's hard to do this, you know, 300 and some times a year, as with doctor Paul and other people jumping in. But, you know, to change it up a little bit in the morning so you're getting a little bit different energy. And every once in a while, I come with that good morning that's kinda what I'm known for. Back when we used to these big events, I would get you know, everybody say, do the good planning, and I'd I'd be so shy and embarrassed, but then we would do it, and we would put that out there.
JB Glossinger [00:01:15]:
So truthfully, good morning to you. I'm glad you're here life you're a first time listener. Welcome. If you've been with me for years, welcome. I'm glad you're a part of this. As always as we get ready to start Monday, let's do our a metaphysical morning ritual is make sure we take time for self care. Obviously you're listening to the coach cast. We've got to get those 7 piece in order, have the right perspective this morning knowing that you can change what you want to change and do what you want to do, Set those priorities.
JB Glossinger [00:01:41]:
Really critical. We have priorities today. That's one of our key things. Let's work on our performance, getting better at the things that we do constantly. Have patience. If you're new here, that's one of the things you gotta be really patient with. We've got a lot of things going on, and you just gotta jump in. Take it day by day.
JB Glossinger [00:01:58]:
You will get it. Just hang in there with us. Okay? Keep great posture. Get those shoulders back right now. Let's get them back as you're listening to this. If you're working out, great. Stay present in the moment and then persist. Stick with it day by day, and you will have tremendous results as we, continue to move forward.
JB Glossinger [00:02:14]:
This week, I got a great week. We're ending the month pretty crazy to think we're already moving into June. It's just amazing how fast the years go, and and that's why we're hanging in there together every day, but it does go fast. Right? And so as we conclude May, let's make sure we we work on our relationships here. That's the key of May. And it's the last week to check your planning. Meaning, if you're new, you should have a base plan in place. The basics are, you know, a few projects that you're working on and the priorities that you're gonna work on.
JB Glossinger [00:02:43]:
That's the basic. For those of you that advanced, you should be, you know, obviously have your mission in place, be looking at your values, make sure everything's in alignment and things are moving forward in those areas. Okay? We've got this week to kinda get it done, and then we're just back to work the next few months. Really important in our structure that you're you're doing that. Again, I don't care what planner you're using, when we come back to our morning metaphysical morning ritual, you know, getting into that planner, whatever that is for you, whatever that looks like. I'm then testing new iPads. I'm trying some new things out. You know, getting that organized is really important.
JB Glossinger [00:03:16]:
Okay? So whatever that is for you, let's make sure we've got that rolling. And then, you know, as we get through the check, we're now gonna be working on massive, friendships today. That's what we're gonna talk about today, building massive friendships. I got some tips, and then we're gonna have a great week. I got we're gonna end, sir's book, Life Lee Kinarix. Hopefully, you enjoyed the interview last week. That was a lot of fun to do. Tomorrow then Wednesday, I'm sorry.
JB Glossinger [00:03:38]:
We're gonna do do they clap when you're winning? That's a key thing. I wanna make sure you get the points there. On Thursday, I gotta ask JB. I keep getting this question from a few people, and this is about relationships, but I'm also gonna talk about friendships. And that is how come I keep attracting the wrong people? For those of you that are dealing with those issues, we're gonna rock that. Friday, we got how much do you, how much do you give and boundaries when you're dealing with friends? That's a financial one we're gonna get into. Sunday we've got doctor Paul he's been doing a hormone series pretty cool stuff if you're into health I think you're enjoying it. I love that he comes in and bring some good energy and then Sunday we've got fellowship and the importance of the tribe and we're going to talk about kind of a spiritual concept with that as we continue to go forward also for those of you that are looking for some of our private things that we got going on, I've got a manifestation group going, that's really a part of your morning coach membership that's fun.
JB Glossinger [00:04:28]:
And then outside of that, we have retreats and we have our mastermind. I'm really excited about our masterminds growing. We're getting ready to get a second group going. We've got amazing people in there all over the world. Those are things you can reach out and we can have a discussion about, and and I'm and you'll and, again, like I said, there's a couple that are, you know, obviously part of what we're doing, and then there's some that are external that are a little more involved. We've got a a lot of that happening. And if you need a little more, you know, help or structure, just reach out to us. [email protected], and we can, you know, have the discussion about those things.
JB Glossinger [00:05:00]:
But today, we're talking about building massive friendships. And, you know, I'm very blessed to have friends all over the world. And one of the reasons I started morning coach was because of that. And I've been able to meet people, I mean, literally all over the world because of morning coaching. Right now, we've got members all over the world, and I consider those to be friends. I I do understand there are acquaintances, but as you get into this more and more as I do and I put this out there, you you become friends, Karen, John. I mean, there's so many people. You know, you're gonna beat us.
JB Glossinger [00:05:29]:
They there's so many people that I've got friends, Nick. You know, I can go through the list, Nicole, and just Roxanne, and I could just keep going and going and going. Charles is new. You know, I've built so many cool friendships through this, but it's hard, you know, to really connect with people and really understand what that friendship truly is because you have acquaintances. Those are people that you know, and then true friends. And what it comes down to me is who cares about you? And when you're you know, we are on the golf course the other day and, you know, I've been out of town in a long time and to come back in town, I've really had an impact on a lot of people. And the reason is is I do things a little bit differently. I come in and I look for the good in others.
JB Glossinger [00:06:08]:
So I actually care and I really do care. It's one of our values, you know, creating certainty for you and caring about you are two things that are really important. And when you really care, you take interest in others and you get out of ego, and you you try to find some common ground or something that they're doing that you can take interest in. And people are are really looking for Motivation. There's so many people that that don't do that like I just go into any environment where there's a party or people are together and the majority of the conversations negative whether it's the political stuff whether it's other people, you know they talk about you know significant other means amazing how negative people can become and so I have always been the person that's coaching to the relationship and try to break that up immediately. I think about even my dating relationships from years ago, 30, 40 years ago, You know, I've been able to maintain a positive relationship with almost every person that's been in my life. The only people I haven't is people that have kind of hurt me and I've just stepped away from them. I don't even I don't even think they exist.
JB Glossinger [00:07:12]:
So if somebody kind of betrays me or does something that that isn't authentic and real, I just step back and I just let him go. And I know you can't do that with family, but you definitely could do that with friends. So be the positive one. And I think that's what where you know, if you hear people talking about other people, find the good in other people. We had a guy that we were golfing with, and the guy I was golfing with was, you know, talking all this stuff about him. I said, but there's good qualities too. Let's talk about the things he does right. Let's look at the focus on those things.
JB Glossinger [00:07:40]:
And just as we've been talking all month, that's how you start to build really great relationships because people wanna be around people like that. And you might not think when you're talking about somebody else and you're like, oh, what are they wearing? Or what what do they do? I can't believe they do that. I can't believe they live in their life like that. I can't be that. They're listening too. And if you're talking back and forth and creating that energy, they're going, I wonder if they talk about me life this way. But if you're enlightened and positive and, you know, focused on the good, all of a sudden, you know, they say, wow, maybe this person is a good person and it changes the whole dynamic. And I don't know if that's my Midwest upbringing because Midwesterners tend to be a little nicer.
JB Glossinger [00:08:17]:
You know, I've I've got a lot of New Yorker friends that are pretty pretty, you know, just call it and say it what it is, but they still have big hearts. I mean, sir, for example, those are finished in his book. I mean, he can be a real SOB. I mean, he is one bad dude. You do not want to get on his bad life. But he's got the biggest heart in the world. And I think most people inherently are good, but you got to show them, you know, like, sir, for example, being adopted, you know, and then then being raised and being in the Israeli military, it was tough for me to build a relationship with him. But now I consider my brother.
JB Glossinger [00:08:49]:
Like, not even friends. Like, it's even beyond that. We would do so much for each other. So once you understand that, you can be the positive one and you can you can push people forward. We're gonna talk about that on Wednesday when we talk about do they clap when you're planning. And that's when you're gonna start to see what true friends are. The other thing you have to do is you have to be authentic. It's we see this in a lot of younger people, and I know I was that way when I was younger.
JB Glossinger [00:09:13]:
But the vulnerability of people, just because you're vulnerable doesn't mean you're weak. And I think that's really important. That's one of the things I took away from training with SIR. I'm very vulnerable, and I don't care. I don't care because I'm very strong. And when I have my weakness, I don't mind sharing it. I don't, especially my friends, because they know they'll pick me up and they know I'm strong enough to handle the feedback and they know I can continue to move forward. So you're you know you you're not weak when you're vulnerable up because I'm weak because I'm all of that's not true.
JB Glossinger [00:09:42]:
If you're still strong in spirit, you're strong mentally and that's why you're here every day and you're you're really in a in a strong space there's absolutely nothing wrong to go to friends and ask for help right, and say I need this help in this particular area. In fact, when you do that, you create that circle, it's unbelievable how you can really change someone's life because you're the person that's there. I I know I was really intense a couple of Wednesdays ago because I have people in town and that are coming to me, which I've never had this before that are literally changing their life, whether it's drinking or some negative things they've had, and they're focused on the right things. And that's why if you've noticed, I've been putting more energy out there, and I thank you. Because if you weren't here and being a Coaching Coach member, I couldn't have the impact that we're starting to have, but I'm realizing how important this message is. Like, it's bigger than me. It's bigger than all of us. The world needs this energy and the and these ideas because it it really can change the world.
JB Glossinger [00:10:38]:
And if we can hold that that vision to changing the world to more peace and more structure and more organization and people working together, we can do that together. I I'm seeing it as a microcosm in the city here than I am, how the ripple effects are starting to happen. Parents are starting to change a little bit, come up to me and said, hey, JB. I need some help. Just this week I had 2 people come up to me and say I need a little bit of help can you can you give me some guidance in these areas. To me, that's that says so much because I'm I'm living the life. Have I always no. I fall down.
JB Glossinger [00:11:11]:
But if we can just try to care a little more and try to bring that energy and see the positive in others, then we're we're good. And then be authentic. Be vulnerable in yourself. You know? Don't be so egoic in the things that you do and worry about what people think. I mean, it's it's life I think it's this training that we got in school. We have to please the teacher. We have to please the professor. We have to write for the professor.
JB Glossinger [00:11:33]:
We have to write for the teacher. True this, we don't have to do any of that. There's a lot of people making money that aren't impressing others. And that's it's not about impressing. It's about going out there and providing value and being real and being authentic. The other thing it's about is about setting boundaries. Hear me talk about this a lot, but fences make great neighbors and boundaries make good friendships. You can't be afraid to say somebody there stepping over the line.
JB Glossinger [00:11:57]:
And, again, you're vulnerable, you're authentic, and you're able to do that when you bring that energy. K? Walk softly, carry a big stick. We've talked about that before. Know when you need to communicate, know when you need to step up, understand body language, understand what somebody's really saying, and listen. You got 2 ears and one mouth. Active listening will change your life. If you become an active listener, you can actually hear what people are saying. And it's not just about coaching, It's about listening and understanding.
JB Glossinger [00:12:27]:
And when you have that empathy and when you can see that, it it it's literally gonna change lives around you, especially for you that that are parents right for your children life you can really hear what they're saying. I mean there's so many people that are just talking and nobody's planning. And so we wanna do that. So set boundaries. And then it's really critical. You don't have to please everyone. You're not Walmart. Okay? You don't have to keep people in your life that aren't there, that aren't at that level.
JB Glossinger [00:12:54]:
I have people always wanting to to get into my life. My mom says, but people want you around and I say I know that, but I don't want to be around them. You know, I'm very introverted, meaning introverted. I need to get energy away from people. When I'm around people, I feel the energy. And so I'll tell people I have no problem with this. If you're around me, I'll say I don't need more friends. I really don't.
JB Glossinger [00:13:15]:
I have enough friends. And some people take the offense to that. I don't care because I have enough friends. And I care and I love them. Now if you wanna be my friend, then you better take me out on a date, meaning you better bring it. What do you have to offer? What are the value you're gonna bring? Just because you're there and you're entitled doesn't mean that I'm going to be your friend. In fact, more than life, I won't be because I have enough friends. And so when you have that ability to go out there and live your life and care and put that energy out there, you're not going to have an issue finding friends.
JB Glossinger [00:13:47]:
And then you just gotta keep the boundaries and understand who's a true friend and who's an acquaintance. And acquaintances don't need to be in your world. That's not who you get vulnerable with. So as sir taught us in the book that we're doing, you know, if they're drainers and maintainers, those people aren't friends. K. You need propellers in your life. The people that we're gonna talk about Wednesday that are clapping when you're planning, that's who you gotta surround yourself with. And as you do that, life will get better.
JB Glossinger [00:14:13]:
Now there is one aspect that a few of you need to hear and that's that aspect of getting famous. And it's challenging when you're when you get a little bit of fame or Internet fame, you know, people wanna be around you. And I think it's really critical to humble and appreciate fans. But, again, having the boundaries because some people just step over them. They don't listen to this. They've never been taught this. And so you've gotta have fences. And you gotta have them around you at all times so you know, hey.
JB Glossinger [00:14:40]:
You're not my friend. I have to do it in business. Look. I build business and I love people. Karen, John, you know, everybody's I've taught mentioned people have been with me for years years years. Nicole's been with me almost 19 years. But I have to have boundaries. K? They're friends, but then there's a business aspect of it and there's gotta be a line and they understand that.
JB Glossinger [00:14:59]:
And I gotta tell you, in my past, some people have stepped over that, and I won't allow it anymore. That's on me, not on them. K? Remember, if people are pushing your buttons, you put them there to be pushed. If people are stepping over the boundaries, you design not draw the line or build the boundary big enough. So let's focus on that today because massive friendships are awesome. When you have great friends, I mean, it's just you don't have to worry about anything. I mean, it's awesome. You have people that are in your corner.
JB Glossinger [00:15:24]:
I've been very fortunate to build friendships because why I care and when you care that all of a sudden they start caring. Remember, people don't really care about what you know. They care about how much you care. And once people understand you do care, your life will change. You'll have friends all over the world and true friends, not acquaintances. Alright. Let's get out there and have a great one. I love you.
JB Glossinger [00:15:46]:
We're gonna rock and roll this week. Finishing the book tomorrow here on planning coach, and then we're gonna continue progressing forward. It is a great time to be alive. Get out there, have some fun, and I'll be back with you tomorrow right here on morningcoach.com.
